I always grew up being quite confident about my body, but as soon as I started being sexually active on the gay scene it became apparent that my penis didn't measure up to the size of most other guys. Not so long ago I went on a couple of great dates with a guy I was really into, but when it got to the bedroom, the comments he made about my size left me feeling embarrassed and ashamed. I feel like all gay men are obsessed with size, and this guy wasn't the first to point ou t how I didn't measure up. I now feel like I can't trust anyone to love me for me, and that I'll always be afraid and ashamed of my body, which isn't what I want. How can I be expected to feel confident and attractive when guys can be so shallow?
Is size everything in the gay dating/hookup scene?
Woodworth began an ongoing series of discussions about gay men and their penises, which led to a four-week support group for gay men who feel theirs are small. Bravo to these men! They are truly unhung heroes, willing to disclose their genital size and come out of their fly, as well as the closet. What pressure they must feel as men—particularly in the gay community—where penis size is talked about so relentlessly and so judgmentally as if it were a measure of the whole man. I know this from having watched Guys very carefully, and more than once strictly for research purposes, of course. Why—you might ask—do we view so many butts more than penises?
I am a year-old gay man, feeling hopeless about finding a hookup, a date or a boyfriend because I have a really small dick. This has happened to me a lot since I came out two years ago. But since I came out, I keep getting the message that I am not what other guys want because I am not well endowed.
Human penises vary in size on a number of measures, including length and circumference when flaccid and erect. Besides the natural variability of human penises in general, there are factors that lead to minor variations in a particular male, such as the level of arousal , time of day, room temperature, and frequency of sexual activity. Compared to other primates, including large examples such as the gorilla, the human penis is thickest, both in absolute terms and relative to the rest of the body.